Vice that brings out your true colour

If you want to know a person's true character and you had just know him/her for a short period of time, there's a short cut. And, no, it's not hiring a fortune teller. Just indulge them in these vices: escort services (that's for man only obviously), gambling and alcohol.

The presence of a beautiful lady in a close door can reveal a lot about a man. Maybe they will go all gooey pouring out their heart to them or their hands (and other body parts) get naughty or both. You'll get to see a whole new personality of him in split seconds. Of course, he mustn't know that you are peeping.

Gambling with real money and especially at significant stake can also brings out the inner personality of a particular person. Is he/she narrow minded? How important is money in their perception? Do they take losses gracefully? Most people don't and they will grumble and blame their 18th generation ancestor for that poor bet that they just lost.

But both the above methods, if realized, and with a small amount of self control, can still mask their true colour unless you are trained to read microexpressions on their face.

Therefore, alcohol consumption or what we call in layman term - hardcore drinking is the perfect vice to reveal one's true behavior. Of course, there are drugs but I am not experienced there, so we keep to the simple everyday vice. After a few shots down, you feel like people around you are your best friends, you keep babbling emotionally non-stop like the old hen's asshole. If you had suppressed emotions like anger, guilt, sadness, and so on; after more shots, you'll start to either cry, laugh uncontrollably, throwing out tantrums or being overtly aggressive. The suppressed emotion will pour out like an open water tap.

So, friendly advice to those that haven't indulge in these vices, either you don't do it at all for the rest of your life or you experience it in a safe environment and, recognize your limit and behaviors. Thereafter, when the unexpected occasion demands, you know how to handle yourself.

(p/s: Although I know my limits, my 'bad' behaviour when I'm high is chasing after drinks and challenge the whole wide world to 'kan pei' with me, so occasionally I am way off limits too; safer bet? Don't do it!)

Do you have attitude responsive problem?

Ever had something that you are requested to do or some questions that are asked to you which you don't feel like doing at all? Or how about an assignment that you had been given some time to do but because you hate doing it so much, you did not put any effort into thinking it, therefore when people asked you about it, you feel annoyed and irritated. How do you response?

First, you can try the silent treatment. Just assume that you never hear anything and keep looking busy.

Second, you can add silent treatment with a sulky face to scare off the people who are asking you about it.

Third, you can give a direct and cold 'NO!' and walking away either pretending to be so busy engaging in something or running away from the probing queries.

Forth, if you didn't think of a solution and while others are discussing on how to solve it, you can be the first one to reject the solutions blatantly but again choose either of the above three reactions when people ask for your own solution.

Fifth, you can always smile apolegitically and said that you never really give a thought on that as you hate to do it so much and try your very best to give full cooperation towards coming out with a better solution.

How do YOU response?

Do you like to take leave?

One of the trend of young adults in the corporate world nowadays is absentism. They juggle medical leave, emergency leave, personal leave, half-day leave, my-great-grandma-is-helping-the-cat-to-deliver-kittens leave and all sorts of leave just not to be present to work. And they taught they are the best of the best in what they do and they no need to work hard like other dumbass out there.

Lack of passion and motivation of work together with the allure of the late entertainment lifestyle in the city has prompt such behavior. Not to mention the internet and all those online games that sucks your time dry. With no proper sleep time, one gets sick (mentally and physically) and takes leave.

I read a lot. A lot of successful people share few key traits. One of such traits is their commitment to their work. They never take leave to be away from their work. They get tired and holiday moods too like us, but they go to work on a regular basis. Day in, day out; they set their schedule ahead and stick to it diligently.

That's the simple thing that we need to do disciplinely. Work on a regular basis. Not taking leave on Friday because Thursday is a ladies night special in the bar.